{"id":23531,"date":"2017-03-19T09:41:51","date_gmt":"2017-03-19T13:41:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kennetttimes.com\/?p=23531"},"modified":"2017-03-19T09:41:53","modified_gmt":"2017-03-19T13:41:53","slug":"what-is-the-definition-of-vanity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kennetttimes.com\/?p=23531","title":{"rendered":"What is the definition of vanity?"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Kelly Hockenberry<\/strong>, Columnist, The Times<\/em><\/p>\n

<\/a>I was standing in line at CVS the other day and witnessed something interesting. A woman and her pre-teen daughter (probably 12?) were ahead of me to check out. While we waited for the cashier, the young girl picked up a lip-gloss from the aisle display. Her mother\u2019s response? \u201cPut that down! Don\u2019t be so vain. You do not need lip gloss.\u201d<\/p>\n

Obviously embarrassed, the girl sheepishly replaced it without comment. Important side-note: the mother was not wearing a lick of make-up. As I stood behind them with my carefully applied mascara, bronzer, and lipstick (standard) I felt oddly exposed.<\/p>\n

Am I vain?<\/p>\n

Because if wearing lip gloss is the litmus test for vanity, I\u2019m in serious trouble. I mean, it\u2019s the title of this column, for pete\u2019s sake! Hmmmm.<\/p>\n

However, now that I am coming to the end of my graduate studies in psychology, I have learned a lot regarding human nature and here\u2019s something I am confident about\u2026<\/p>\n

Everyone wants to feel good.<\/b><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t mean metaphorically speaking…I mean, literally.<\/p>\n

But, how do you know when you\u2019ve crossed the line? According to Webster, the definition of vanity is \u201cexcessive pride in or admiration of one\u2019s own appearance or achievements.\u201d<\/p>\n

Therefore, I am going to boldly assert that I do not <\/i>think that lip gloss is the gateway to narcissism.<\/p>\n

In fact, there are plenty of research studies to suggest that wearing make-up can have a positive effect on mental health. From a cognitive behavioral approach, the time spent getting ready in the morning can be a motivating force to get out of bed and a dedicated few minutes to devote to self care. These are particularly important tasks if you are battling depression.<\/p>\n

And, like it or not, our appearance says a lot about who we are without us having to utter a word. Lately, I feel that there has been a backlash against beauty in the name of #girlpower. If you are a female concerned about your appearance you are \u201cvain\u201d and people (namely men, I suppose) won\u2019t take you seriously. But why can\u2019t you be interested in the latest color palette by L\u2019Oreal AND want to be an astrophysicist? Why are the two concepts mutually exclusive?<\/p>\n

Trust me, I understand not wanting your daughter to look like Tammy Faye Baker in the third grade.<\/p>\n

I get it.<\/p>\n

BUT, wearing a pale pink gloss in 7th grade is not wrong. And, it\u2019s NOT vain.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s a pretty heavy internal monologue for a drug store waiting line, wouldn\u2019t you say?<\/p>\n

P.s…I didn\u2019t interrupt with my opinion. I am hopeful that maybe that mother is reading this article right now.<\/p>\n

What do YOU think? Please share in the comment section below.<\/p>\n

Happy Weekend.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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