All About Connecting: You’re Not the Problem – You’re Just in the Wrong Room
By Nancy Rugart Plummer, Times Columnist
One of my favorite stories has nothing to do with dating, but it taught me something I now share with almost every client I work with.
In the 1930s, a small company in Cincinnati called Kutol Products made a soft, pliable putty designed to clean soot off wallpaper. It was sold in Kroger stores, did its job, and kept the company in business for about twenty...
All About Connecting: Navigating dating for the older set
By Nancy Rugart Plummer, Columnist, The Times
Dear Nancy,
I’m new to online dating and have been meeting great women, but many expect me to pay for everything—even though they’re successful professionals. I like one woman in particular, but I’m hesitant to be exclusive since she never offers to split costs. Any advice?
Pascal – 59 – Bryn Mawr
It’s completely understandable...
Becoming The Best U: Advice on love and dating
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
Question: I’m a widow finally ready to date but I’ve never tried online dating and am not sure of the modern expectations. My question is, who pays for the first date?
Abbey – Wayne, PA
Dear Abbey,
I am so sorry for your loss. It takes immense strength to navigate widowhood and to put yourself out there again. I am very happy for you!
This is...
Four easy ways to improve your relationship with your man
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
I’ve often wondered why it is that much research has revealed the sad truth about most traditional relationship counseling…over 75% of couples who go for counseling together, end up divorcing or ending their relationship. I felt it to be true, even with my own experiences in the past, and when I did some more digging, I found some solid evidence.
Dr. Steven...
All About Connecting: Just go for it
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
We’ve all heard from friends, family members, and co-workers, that they are “sort of” dating, but don’t know if it’s going to lead to anything. Many of our clients at All About Connecting say the same thing to us. Then, they wonder why the relationship just peters out. To all of my readers, I promise you will do better to JUST GO FOR IT!
As Nick...
All About Connecting: Online dating quiz
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
This month, a quiz to kick off the column (don’t worry about studying!):
ALL ABOUT CONNECTING’S ONLINE DATING QUIZ
Do you find that the people you write through online dating sites and apps don’t write you back?
Do you find that the people that reach out to you are the ones you are not interested in?
Do you wonder if there are any new people on...
Manly mistakes men make on Match.com
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
Ok, men, aren’t you frustrated that you haven’t been successful in finding the woman of your dreams yet on Match.com? Admit it, you know you are at least an 8, you make a good salary, you are successful and have no baggage. So what’s not working for you? I’ll tell you plain and simple – it’s not you; it’s your process.
Below are the most common...
Finding a person with your values
Not everyone is looking for a ‘hook-up,’ but to take things slower
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
It’s a given that if someone is looking for a quick hook-up they just need to jump on Tinder, OK Cupid, and too many more sites and apps to mention.
But when it comes to meaningful relationships, where and how do women with values find dateable men who still have “old-fashioned”...
All About Connecting: Make your own luck
It’s about preparation and strategy, for the most part
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
We’ve all been sold on the idea that successful people are just lucky. We are always complaining that we too could have been a millionaire like our brother-in law who made it big by being “lucky enough” to get in at the right time with a great start-up firm, or we could have a husband like...
Looking in the mirror
Maybe it’s not the people you date, but your approach
By Nancy Plummer, Columnist, The Times
Answer these questions honestly:
Do you pick out men to date from online websites just from their first profile picture?
Do your friends or family tell you you’re too picky, but you tell them you just have high standards?
Have you ever been on a date and were worried that someone you know may walk...
